It is very important to seek out a knowledgeable Elder. For they know most of our customs. For example in Tshivenda traditionally, women or any other person is not allowed to kiss a new born baby on the lips because they were thought to be too pure.

Traditional teachings are invaluable even in today's world - it teaches us on what the mother needs to do to  take care of the child . For example the mother of the child is not allowed to share the bedroom with her husband or any other man.becouse the baby belongs to granny, after that that the days will come when the baby has grown when the baby has reached the proper days which can be ten days or three month it will depend on the parent. And then they will take the baby to the stage where he/she will be given the name.

When the child grown up he/she will be told to respect older people.This is done sitting down to show respect in the presence of older folks. In that case is when the child reaches the stage of being a teenager, Boys should pass through in initiation school to attain manhood. It was a highly secret school where boys were trained in the self discipline, endurance, manners and tribal.

The girls assemble in the python line, close together, back into the next front and hands gripping the preceding elbows. Traditionally they danced nude only after initiation you will be called woman or man who is ready to be married or to marry someone.

In the meantime the baby will be eating tshiunza, when the baby will be eating tshiunza which is mixed with some traditional herbs and mix with mealie mealie and water and you live it for some few day until it become sour  and cook it to be a soft pourage , so that the baby can grow with good health.

After some time when the child had grown to be a men which each Venda boy should pass through to attain manhood when maybe he is ten to fifteen years old.

He then go the initiation school and then come back and you will see the different because the one who go to initiation school had got manner, we also talk about the Venda child who have a respect they don't move around the street. In Venda culture the child need to be taught to have a respect by their parent to sit down. And great old people in Venda traditional when your parent call you if you are a boy you said ndaa!